Swiping apps may be millennials’ preferred way to date, but speaking with an expert, HL learned sites like these could actually be hurting your shot at love! Find out why here.
There’s nothing wrong with casual/swiping dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, etc., but they may not be the BEST tool to use if you’re searching for “the one.” And while you’ve probably thought that before, now there’s more definitive proof behind that theory! Speaking with eHarmony CEO Grant Langston, we learned why certain dating apps aren’t always the best way to find true love, but we also learned what DOES matter when you’re looking for a relationship that’ll last. And seriously, it all makes SO much sense! Click here to see adorable pics of celeb couples holding hands.
First things first, when looking for your other half, it’s important to assess what you want in a partner in crime — sounds obvious, but it’s a step many people skip when logging into an app like Tinder. “I think it’s very helpful for that person to say, ‘Here’s what matters,’” Grant told HollywoodLife.comEXCLUSIVELY. “If he likes to go to bed early and you like to go to bed late, it doesn’t really matter — it can be annoying — but it doesn’t predict for a better relationship. Helping people understand those two differences is important.” That’s where dating apps can sometimes have a negative impact — they don’t know how to sort through the important qualities from the unimportant ones.
“I get a little scared sometimes when I see online dating apps and things of that nature that match people on what we call ‘fun stuff,’” Grant explained. “OkCupid is an example, although I’m not trying to say anything bad about them, but they match people on interests. He likes golf, you like golf! That stuff can make for fun dates, no doubt about it. But none of that stuff predicts for good relationships — it doesn’t MATTER.” Grant stressed that if you’re serious about finding a suitable partner, you have to look beyond initial attraction and similarities. “You have to think about what matters and what doesn’t matter,” he told us. “It doesn’t mean it’s wrong for us to both like something, but I don’t want to pick somebody just for that reason.”